{"id":1774,"date":"2013-07-23T15:58:38","date_gmt":"2013-07-23T20:58:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/?p=1774"},"modified":"2013-07-21T15:59:22","modified_gmt":"2013-07-21T20:59:22","slug":"how-things-change-and-how-they-stay-the-same","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/2013\/07\/23\/how-things-change-and-how-they-stay-the-same\/","title":{"rendered":"How things change, and how they stay the same"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_1775\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1775\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?ssl=1\"><img data-attachment-id=\"1775\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/2013\/07\/23\/how-things-change-and-how-they-stay-the-same\/familyfishing\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?fit=1698%2C1092&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1698,1092\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Fishing with Misty &#038; Dad\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;An old photo (&#8217;75-ish?) from a fishing trip (Colorado?) with my sister and Dad&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;An old photo (&#8217;75-ish?) from a fishing trip (Colorado?) with my sister and Dad&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?fit=300%2C192&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?fit=840%2C540&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?resize=840%2C540&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Fishing with Misty &amp; Dad\" width=\"840\" height=\"540\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1775\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?w=1698&amp;ssl=1 1698w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?resize=150%2C96&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?resize=300%2C192&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/07\/FamilyFishing.jpg?resize=1024%2C658&amp;ssl=1 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 709px) 85vw, (max-width: 909px) 67vw, (max-width: 1362px) 62vw, 840px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1775\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">An old photo (&#8217;75-ish?) from a fishing trip (Colorado?) with my sister and Dad<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>This blast from the past was taken in the mid-70&#8217;s and features a much younger (but no less geeky) yours truly, his squirt of a sister, and our dad.<\/p>\n<h2>Me<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>Just turned 50<\/li>\n<li>Just celebrated 24 wonderful years of marriage to a woman I couldn&#8217;t have dreamed of meeting when this was taken<\/li>\n<li>Have a 19-year-old son, making him quite a few years older than me in the picture<\/li>\n<li>Work in computing (not much of a surprise to someone who knew me then)<\/li>\n<li>Teach for a living (probably a lot less obvious when this was taken)<\/li>\n<li>Have more than a little gray hair to document the years in between :-)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Misty<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>About to turn 46<\/li>\n<li>Turned out to be the actual outdoorsperson in the family (we were a little slow to figure that out \u2013 gender stereotypes weigh heavy in the world)<\/li>\n<li>After traveling through an undergraduate degree in music history, got a PhD in biology and now teaches animal behavior and conservation at UW Oshkosh<\/li>\n<li>Is biking this summer (with her awesome dog in a trailer behind her!) from Ann Arbor, MI, to Ithaca, NY (I consider biking the 15 minutes across the Mississippi into downtown Minneapolis without dying an accomplishment)<\/li>\n<li>Also turned out to be a teacher for a living, and an exceptional one at that (I suspect our mother has something to do with that)<\/li>\n<li>Got to do field work in cool places like the Galapagos and Turkey (yeah, I have biologist envy)<\/li>\n<li>Also has more than a little gray hair to document the years in between :-)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Dad<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li>About to turn 83<\/li>\n<li>After living for decades in Wichita Falls, TX (where Misty and I essentially spent our whole lives before going away to college), moved to Houston for roughly a decade<\/li>\n<li>Then retired to NW Arkansas, where our folks still live an incredibly active life<\/li>\n<li>Got really involved in the NW Arkansas jazz scene and knows all the celebs<\/li>\n<li>Rediscovered (with Mom) his love for bridge, and they get invited to play with some pretty serious heavy hitters which is super cool<\/li>\n<li>Joined with a submariner veterans group in NW Arkansas and has become a lot more connected to his experience on subs during the Korean War<\/li>\n<li>Fishes as much as circumstances allow, but physically managing the boat and the truck and the gear, etc., etc., is proving tougher. Luckily he&#8217;s got friends that help a lot.<\/li>\n<li>Has beaten cancer twice, but it hasn&#8217;t been easy and those battles have definitely left their marks<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The crazy thing, though, is how much this old picture resonates with <em>now<\/em>. My sister and I have changed a ton, but my Dad still looks a <em>lot<\/em> like that. Thomas, Dad, and I went trout fishing on the White River in Arkansas last week, and it was pretty much just like I remember events like this picture. A few weeks before that, he and Misty went fishing in Lake Michigan near Green Bay. While we were in Arkansas, he and I took the recycling to the recycling center. He came with me to the car place while they looked at a rattle. We went to a picnic hosted by his submariners group. We listened to live jazz over a Sunday brunch. A lot of the details have changed, but the broad brushstrokes are still <em>very<\/em> recognizable; it&#8217;s definitely our strange, happy family.<\/p>\n<p>Since she&#8217;s not in the picture, I end up pretty much ignoring my wonderful mother in this, which isn&#8217;t really cool. She just turned 75 and totally rocks, and is the rock of the family in so, so many ways. I suspect that while we were fishing she was back at the camper, bravely enduring the &#8220;great outdoors&#8221; when she would have <em>much<\/em> been somewhere with indoor plumbing :-). Love you Mom!<\/p>\n\n\t<div class=\"st-post-tags \">\n\tTags: <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/change\/\" title=\"change\">change<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/experience\/\" title=\"experience\">experience<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/family\/\" title=\"Family\">Family<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/fishing-trip\/\" title=\"fishing trip\">fishing trip<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/friends\/\" title=\"Friends\">Friends<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/tag\/old-photo\/\" title=\"old photo\">old photo<\/a><br \/><\/div>\n\n\n\t<h4>Related posts<\/h4>\n\t<ul class=\"st-related-posts\">\n\t<li><a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/2008\/12\/29\/happy-holidays-to-all\/\" title=\"Happy Holidays to all! 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Me Just turned 50 Just celebrated 24 wonderful years of marriage to a woman I couldn&#8217;t have dreamed of meeting when this was taken Have a &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/2013\/07\/23\/how-things-change-and-how-they-stay-the-same\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;How things change, and how they stay the same&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0},"categories":[25,200],"tags":[74,728,873,812,877,813],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p90sy-sC","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":394,"url":"https:\/\/UnhinderedByTalent.com\/Phi\/archives\/2006\/11\/07\/were-thinking-of-you\/","url_meta":{"origin":1774,"position":0},"title":"We&#8217;re thinking of you","author":"Nic McPhee","date":"7 Nov 06","format":false,"excerpt":"We're thinking of you, originally uploaded by Unhindered by Talent. 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